Nature’s Wisdom: Boundaries
In the last weeks I’ve had to set more boundaries in my life so that I can be more focused and gain even more clarity to reach my goal.
What I have learned about boundaries is that they are not about putting up walls. First I had to set my definition of what boundaries are. This is what I came up with: Defining my edges, my frontiers and setting my borders so that I know where I can BE and ‘play’ in a way that will fortify, ground, respect me and others around me.
Nature was extremely important in helping me to understand, set and respect those boundaries.
Here is what I’m learning to integrate about boundaries from Nature’s Wisdom.
First of all I had to learn to let go of guilt about setting boundaries. I’ve always had guilt show up fairly quickly when I choose something for myself over others. Granted I have gotten rid of most of the guilt in my life but in my personal life, guilt still shows up in the most unexpected places.
So, I set out and observed how and why nature sets her boundaries to help me understand about my own boundaries while learning to let go of the guilt and being comfortable with my choices.
Boundaries in Nature are all around. They help create a freedom of growth and a capacity for acceptance, interdependence and unity.
Each organism must be clear about what they are and what they have to contribute to Nature. The individual boundaries are clear and established even when they interact together.
Now this seems very easy and almost like a ‘well of course’ statement but I wanted to look deeper into this one.
The boundaries that are set in Nature allow it to gain clarity for each organism. This clarity achieves the growth that we witness in Nature. It also allows the progress to face the different seasons, elements and obstacles that show up.
Without this individual clarity, Nature would not survive, live, endure and grow through what she must face.
Be clear about who you are and what you are bringing into your life and others lives.
Respect is much more of a human emotion but in Nature respect is about consideration and relationships. When the tree sets its boundaries, he makes itself available for the others around him, giving consideration to the wildlife that needs it and creating the interdependent relationships with other organisms to allow them to grow, thrive and survive.
This respect or consideration is also for itself. It needs to set those boundaries in order to exist. No boundaries means there is no defining limits or shape to anything. So Nature cannot exist without boundaries.
Remember to respect yourself as much as you respect others.
Boundaries help to protect and heal Nature without causing more damage. Those boundaries are not rigid, they bend, sway and respect the organisms’ capacity to survive and grow in demanding times. They are internal and this is where the organism finds what he needs to face what is showing up.
Let’s use a tree as an example for boundaries. The tree tends to its own growth, its own capacity to adapt, change, heal and transform during its life. All its energy is directed towards expressing its growth and facing the days, elements and seasons that show up in its life.
The tree’s capacity to bend without breaking is well known and if it was incapable of swaying and bending it would constantly break in the face of any storm. What we don’t often talk about is how the tree manages to bend and sway. This is possible because its roots and trunk are solidly rooted and able to stand while the top of the tree and the branches get whipped around.
This is where the protection lies. In its capacity to be solid and bending within the same organism. Recognizing where to ground itself and where to bend. Protecting itself from the elements.
The adjustment needed is strengthened by the clear boundaries it respects. These boundaries create the growth, a longevity and a life that can stand the test of time because of it and assures its survival and the survival of Nature.
So as I set more boundaries in my life, I welcome Nature’s Wisdom. It has allowed me to recognize that boundaries are not walls. They help remove the fog to allow the clarity, focus and concentration needed to be ME. The freedom to grow and generate the life that is mine. Surrounded by the people that I love and grounded in my own roots.
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